A Millennials way of Traveling

Officially the season of Summer (I say as I scroll through my calendar). Can you believe it’s half over?! I ask myself why time pasts so fast, and how do I keep track of it all between two jobs, an internship, and the fast world of traveling.

I’ve traveled a lot this summer. So fun, right? I often think about white scorching sand sticking to my toes, floppy sun hats, shopping bags in each hand, and how long the battery will last on my phone. I just want to capture it all. Those moments of pure joy, scrunched eye laughter and of course, Instagram worthy food.

It’s so hard to capture it all on camera. I want to take in the real life moments, but I also want to share it with the world. The difficulty of tucking those in between moments into my heart, and wanting to capture the right candid photo of my boyfriend laughing.

My most recent trip has taught me a great lesson. How to balance my phone usage and how to balance not having a phone at all. There were hours where I scrolled to catch up on my social media feed while checking up on friends, but there were days where I left my phone inside for more than 5 hours (miracle, right).

Okay, I’ll admit I missed the convenience of my phone in one hand, but I loved having memories that I can only describe to friends. Oddly enough, it feels refreshing to step away for a bit. To be in communication with only those immediately next to me. The presence of only a few around me felt like a detox that was much needed.

The balance of phone usage during vacations are tricky, but for a millennial it’s a simple lesson that is essential to learn. 

 

I Live in a Town Where my Friends Vacation

Traverse City: A place where a homemade ice cream cone is around the corner, where the lake is your backyard, and where you can find your exactly location with the palm of your right hand.

A couple of months back, my friend and I had a conversation about our home towns. She laughed and questioned, “isn’t it funny that I vacation where you live?” To be honest, I never thought of it like that. Somehow, I forgot that not everyone lives on the lake during the summer months. I’ve been more than fortunate to have a childhood in one of the most beautiful small towns in America. At times, I itched to leave such a small town, but I now think about wanting to live here with my own family someday.

The tone of her voice still drifts in my memory, and the pause of my breath. I think that I just stopped and smiled. In the moment, I quickly remembered the smell of Spring, fresh cherry blossoms, and miles of pollen that follows you around.

I remembered the comfort of downtown at dawn during summer festivals. The flower beds at the open space, a riot of June colors. The exact shade of cracked brick on downtown cross walks. 

I bragged to her about how in the Spring, the trees are clothed in white blossoms and tips still in tight buds. And how downtown streets are purposely photogenic during sunset hours. A place where the lake basically becomes your dinner table, entertainment during leisure, and backdrop of the many photos taken. I showed her photos of sunsets on the dock, but kept repeating “this doesn’t do it justice, is just doesn’t”. I explained that the familiar sign of M22 printed on t-shirts and sweatshirts explains life in Northern Michigan.

A couple of months back, I forgot about my favorite details about my home town. I’m SO in love where I live, and so thankful to have friends who remind me of all my blessings. Being home for the summer make me even more humble to live in a town where my friends vacation.

A World Where Happiness is Everywhere

Going on a vacation with my boyfriend was definitely a plus, and 92 degree weather was very much needed, but Disney World was seriously awesome.

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Believe it or not, my boyfriend’s family goes every year, sometimes twice (he’s 20). Me, not so much. Last time I went, er, was when I was .. five? I think you get the point, I’m not really a Disney fan, nor was I ever. This time though was a life changing experience. Not the out-of-body kind of change, but I felt surrounded by so many HAPPY people. Kids, service dogs, and adults were in full Disney mode, and the energy was so contagious that I was able to loosen up, and make the most out of my vacation.

I’ll let honest, there were some things that I wasn’t a fan of (roller coasters, over price merchandise, and aquariums/zoo), but looking past that I had one of the best vacations I’ve ever been on. There was so much that we did that our average walking distance was 9 miles a day.. A good way to burn off all the desserts that were eaten (bless my stomach). There were lots of hours spent relaxing by Art of Animation’s Cozy Cone Pool and even more hours spent at the parks.

At first, I was a little unsure about my feelings about Disney, but as the days continued and after each time I saw my boyfriend’s face light up it made me feel like this is a lot of people’s happy place. And I was ready to find a happy place in 92 degree weather. Despite my fears of roller coasters and heights, I enjoyed the parks as much as he did, and there were so many laughs shared that my abs got a workout that week. A happy place where all ages can enjoy the shows, rides, and attractions.

I mean honestly, I’ve been so seriously all year, and had so much stress on my shoulders that this vacation did exactly what vacations are supposed to do.. make me forget about it all! The streets were crowded, and there were a ton of babies crying, but wow how much fun it is to be in such an upbeat, and cheerful place. Even if I don’t want to admit it.. I definitely plan on going back just to be surrounded by Disney characters and attractive desserts.

Why my Résumé Boosts Confidence

Résumés are tedious and kind of boring at times when I’m figuring out grammatical errors and appropriate word choices, I’m not going to lie to you. I’ve corrected my résumé  for months now, and trying to put onto a piece of paper my most admirable skills and experiences. Since I’ve been constantly thinking about why I would stand out to employers it has helped me gain confidence in my professional development.

I just finished my Freshman year of college, and I think I have definitely set myself up for experiences that are damn good résumé  builders (internship, wedding event assistant). I’m happy to say that putting together a résumé  has actually made me more confident. How else are you supposed to sell yourself to employers?

Doing this took a lot of work, I wrote down a list of my skills and accomplishments and circled ones that stand out the most. Sometimes I get so busy with trying to do so much at once, I forget to remember all the super awesome things that I’ve already done!

3 secrets that I’ve learned that have boosted my confidence

When I stopped listening to that voice about why every reason an employer wouldn’t want to hire me I instantly felt in control of my thoughts.

Writing down my strengths and talents has helped me to understand my strengths in a professional setting (extremely organized, leadership skills, effective communication skills, etc).

Deciding that I would hire myself if I interviewed myself. Not just because I’d be biased, but because I am confident in my inter-personal skills and smiling face that it is clearly demonstrated the moment I hand my résumé over.

 

The most important thing is that I’ve been able to pin point my issues (lack of confidence when applying) and I’ve learned to take steps to fix it. Not only have I taken steps to fix, I have learned HOW to fix it (there’s a difference). Just because we have solutions to this problem it doesn’t mean it is automatically fixed. We have to be the ones to use them! Writing a résumé  is hard work, and you’ll probably write more than one draft, but don’t forget to give yourself credit for why you’d be a great employee.

 

Good luck and happy résumé  drafting!

 

10 Wearable Trends for Summer 2016

I am all about personal style, and of course, accessories! Summer is my second favorite season besides fall, but what is so exciting about summer is the huge color palette to choose from! Floral, pastels, stripes, chevron, lights, darks. You name it, it’s virtually endless.

As we all know, I’m seriously addicted to Pinterest fashion boards, and I’ve created my top ten fashion trends that I’m obsessed with, and ready to strut this summer. I love chic styled fashion combinations that are fun, flirty, and professional, so here are some of my favorite trends for you to watch out for this summer.

Pointed heeled flats are to die for. Look how causally adorable these flats are, comfy and stylish. What an easy way to look chic. Pointed toes are easily one of the most versatile shoe you’ll ever own. This look is great for the office, date-night, and for a causal Sunday when running errands.

 

I basically wear accessories religiously. I seriously doubt you’ll ever see me without a cute pair of earrings, statement necklace, or purse! Statement necklaces make a powerful impact on a cute plain tank, and are a huge trend right now. Bracelets, hat, handbag add an extra flair of fun. If I had to choose between gold or silver accessories, I’m loving gold for this summer, especially rose gold! A couple of pieces of jewelry will definitely add to your outfit, but make sure you don’t over-do it.

Floral off the shoulder tops scream SUMMER! So fun and flirty these tops are, as seen off the runway in Paris to New York. A great way to add color to a white pair of jeans, black skirt, and dark washed jeans. Perfect for a girl’s night out, or new date with that cute boy you’ve been talking to! The bell sleeve detail is perfect for tops like these.

HIGH- WASTED DENIM are reinventing themselves even better than the last time! Finding the right pair can be tricky, but when you do they seriously accentuate the right parts, and look so dang cute. The right fit is essential, because you don’t want to be walking around in “saggy mom jeans”, am I right ladies? This denim is great for a casual day out, and is not going out of style anytime soon.

Professional and so chic, what a perfect combo. Blazers can be combined with just about anything. Casually paired with printed shorts or with a peplum top or skinny jeans, you name it.

Two-piece outfits are *obviously* so easy to wear, it almost hurts. When the temperature starts to rise, you’ll be loving your two-piece set a little extra, because of course, there’s room for breathing. A super simply pairing, for a simple day or fun night out with the gals.

I’m all about unique sunglasses that are flirty and trendy. Yes, we’ve moved past the boring, and now BOLD is in. Over-sized sunglasses are a must, but the cat-eyed and round combination are too cute, two of the best styles in just one look. The cat-eye adds sexiness to your outfit, and round frames are a great hipster effect, you rock it girl!

 

High neck tanks are sexy enough to show a little shoulder, but so trendy when worn with solid pants or shorts. These tops are super wearable, and breathable when the weather gets hot. By highlighting your collarbone and shoulders, the modest neck line makes this a perfect tank to wear.

 

Shift dresses are an obvious go to! These are super simple and comfortable, but the “shift” of the dress, makes it casual. This dress is great when you want a little extra breathing room, or when you eat a little extra at your favorite brunch spot. The prints and colors are endless for this summer style.

Cross body purses are so handy, and come with so much ease. They’re small enough to fit exactly what you need, but still make a big style impact. There are seriously so many colors that will fit any occasion.

 

These are just SOME of my favorite trends for this summer. But the most important thing is to WEAR WHAT YOU LOVE! Fashion trends come and go, but the most important guideline to follow with style is to make it your own and make it unique to you. I happen to love these trends because of how chic the colors and prints are. Keep an eye out for these styles, but don’t forget to experiment to find a look tailored to you! The impact of personal style can make or break a first impression, so be confident and of course, always Pinterest for tips!

 

You can follow me on Pinterest at http://www.pinterest.com/sabrynacisneros/ and my fashion board at https://www.pinterest.com/sabrynacisneros/f-a-s-h-i-o-n/

 

How to be a Friend Worth Keeping

There are many different types of friendships we all have. Whether it’s romantic, an acquaintance, a best friend, and even a toxic friendship it affects our personal lives more than we think. At a young age, my mother constantly reminded me of the importance of making friends, and like any little girl I wanted as many as I could possibly fit my arms around. However, growing up I realized that it is more important to have positive and encouraging friends than to have friends that prove your “social status”.

Supportive friends are seriously way better for your health, believe me. It saved me a lot of unwanted drama, gossip, and negative influences. I can’t tell you that it’s been only laughs and blue skies for my entire life, because it hasn’t.

Unfortunately, we all have had toxic friendships, and they are seriously not fun to deal with. A toxic friendship is different for everyone, but from my personal experience it meant that I worried about them 24/7, and that their negativity actually influenced my happiness.

A friend who makes you unhappy? Yes, it’s possible. Through these experiences, I’ve practiced the most important parts about being a better friend, and this is how you can be one too.

Show that you actually do care about their life. 

It’s easy to talk about on the surface topics, but don’t forget that we all have interpersonal struggles too, and it feels good when a friend asks me how I actually am. It helps me to get some of the anxiety out of my head.

Be positive to be around. 

Seriously, being around someone who is constantly negative influences me to look at the negative aspects of life. Part of being a positive friend is magnifying their strengths, saying that bad days don’t last forever, boys come and go, and a B is not the worst grade in the world.

Be supportive, and encouraging.

I think it’s an amazing feeling being that friend who encourages someone to better their life, because they feel supported to do so. Giving and receiving compliments makes us smile, so why not make your friend smile too? Encouragement goes a long way, especially when you have friends that are shy and insecure. Sometimes, they won’t vocalize that they feel encouraged, but they probably gained a new sense of confidence.

Show your true self, and be vulnerable.

Creating an environment where it’s okay to show your deepest emotions, and most life changing stories actually makes us feel like we can open up more. Trusting a friend to take you as you are can be difficult, but once you show them they can be themselves, it really does create an intimate bond.

Stay in touch even if you get busy

I’ve been the friend who lost touch with friends, because of my crazy work schedule, but I’ve also been the friend who lost a friend because of the lack of communication. Even if you’re swamped with work, take a second to send a text, and say hi..it does go a long ways. Putting the effort in to show that you care shows a lot about your character, and by doing this it can rekindle a friendship.

 

There’s a ton of tips out there for being a better friend, but I think these are my most important tips based on personal experiences. Finding a group of friends who challenge you, inspire and encourage you is so important for a healthy friendships. Having friends like this are worth keeping, so why not try to be the friend you’d want to have around?

 

 

 

 

 

Why it’s Important to have Goals

I can probably make a giant list of why it’s important to have goals, but today, I’m going to focus on one really important reason. Having goals makes me feel happy!

Recently, I’ve thought about happiness and self-esteem. These two go hand in hand, wouldn’t you agree? If you’re not happy, your self-esteem is most likely low, vise versa. No matter if I’m having a bad day about my body image or if it’s a bad day in general, I forget that there’s way more to self-esteem than solely focusing on body image. I’m not always the most confident person, and sometimes I would consider myself an introvert. But, when I’m asked about both personal and career goals, I feel my face brighten, because I’m always so happy to talk about it. I can literally talk about my short and long term goals  for hours, and I normally get so excited that I forget to slow down when speaking. My sisters have always laughed at me when I talk about something exciting, because without recognizing I begin to speak really fast and end up mumbling, because I forget to enunciate my words.

It’s important to have clear and specific goals, because we can allow ourselves to be interested in whatever the goal may be, and without noticing it makes us happy to know the possibility of accomplishing them. I’ll admit, I’m a pretty self-cautious person. Most people are. But, when talking about my goals I am definitely not self-cautious, and this is something to be happy about!

Have you ever been asked about your goals, and proceeded to talk about them so passionately that you didn’t even worry what someone else thought? It’s a pretty dang good feeling, isn’t it.

So, I’ve been thinking..

What if a way to re-build self-esteem is to focus on the types of feelings we get when speaking about goals? And a good way to do this is to take mental notes of what your body language is saying, how your emotions are, and how it makes you feel to talk about them. What if, the more we positively and passionately we talked about our goals the more self-esteem we create for ourselves. Sure, it may only be one outlet of positive self-esteem, but that’s a big step for someone who has struggled with it. Once we get familiar with these positive feelings again, it will become contagious, and perhaps, we can continue strive to think more positively.

And sometimes, small steps like this take a lot of courage to do, but it is totally possible and WORTH it to love who you are.

A Weekend in the Windy City

Chicago appeals to me more and more after every visit. Whether it’s the clean streets, breathtaking sky line, or the way Lake Michigan hugs the city. I can’t help but fall more in love with the city life.

Coming from a small town, and traveling to larger cities brings a rush of excitement. I’m always up for finding new restaurants to eat at, coffee shops to sip latte’s at, and stores to shop at! There’s just SO much to do here. Luckily, my boyfriend and I are fortunate to have friends who live around Lincoln Park area. This neighborhood is perfect in every way, and I’m obsessed.

We did everything my little feet could do in 3 days. Eating at Chicago’s most famous pizzeria, tasting a variety of macaroons at my favorite cafe, visiting tourist attractions, and everything in between. Here’s a couple of shots that I’m excited to share with you all..

The one thing that makes me feel so alive in the city is the inspiration I get when I visit. There’s so much life in the streets of Chicago, and it’s incredibly contagious.

I feel like anything can happen in Chicago.. Maybe, it’s because of the bold architecture, or Chicago traffic at 5pm, or maybe, it’s the smell of Lake Michigan mixing with hot dogs.. I’m not sure, but I cannot wait for my next visit to the Windy City.

 

A Misguided Perception..and When it’s Time to Let Go

Is the past worth bring up when your present is better?

Jealously can run the show, even be the center of the show, but when is it time to let go and when is it time to move past it. Perhaps, we don’t move past it completely, but rather learn to live with it, in a healthy way. Honestly, it’s an unpleasant feeling to feel powerless to this type of pain, but even I have learned that it can be overcome and worked on.

The real problem isn’t the past of your partner or your own past, but is the misguided way of thinking. For me, anxiety crawls up into the depths of my emotions and without rationally thinking, I begin to develop stories that may not even be true, even if my mind makes them real. I’ve had the privilege to be with a partner who looks beyond this issue, and instead of bringing it up over and over, he says “there is nothing that we can do about it, but move forward and love each other to the best of our ability.”

What does that mean to someone who deals with anxiety, fear, and jealously on a daily basis? It hasn’t been a smooth lesson that’s being learned, but knowing the honesty in his voice helps gain security. Reassurance from your partner is key.

Sometimes we see problems where they don’t exist. As long as we carefully monitor our misguided thinking and direct it to a more secure way of thinking, issues can begin to dissolve. It’s not an easy process, and it’s actually quite long, but it’s worth the try..